I simply resolved at the beginning and throughout each day, to avoid wherever possible these three pitfalls of thinking. Any time my mind migrated there, I would simply immediately redirect to something positive. I would not join in the internal dialogue in my head that would say things like,
“Man, today is going to be a tough day”, (dread)
“You really should have chosen a career as __________ “, (regret)
“I really hate that guy”, (resent)
You get the picture, I am sure. I simply found myself drifting into these thought paths more than I cared to and to no practical end. I was the only one who was hurt when I did. Well, initially anyway. Then I would hurt others by my behaviour that resulted from the emotional funk from dreading, resenting, and regretting.
And who am I to question God as to why the path I took was not the right one for me? How do I know I am not exactly where I need to be and can be of most value to myself, God, my family, and humanity?
Who’s to say that if one of the things I regret not doing would not have been my undoing? Who’s to say that if my ‘ship came in’ the way my thoughts felt it should have, that I wouldn’t have sunk it?
Life is amazing today. As long as I remain in today and grateful for everything.
There is no place for dread, regret, or resentment in a life that, as Don Draper puts it, “Moves in only one direction, forward”.