Self Deception

September 14, 2009

I am amazed at how often challenges and pain derive from self-deception.  Beliefs about self, others, and life that turn out to be incorrect.  Believing errors, overstatements, understatements and lies.

It is often said that “truth sets us free”.  Why?  Is it because if we believe untruths that we stay stuck, bound, imprisoned to whatever dysfunction the untruth brings?

Alcoholism is a great example.  The untruth is that drinking will solve our problems.  The more we tend to believe this, the more damage we do and the deeper in we get.  At least for those of us who are prone to alcoholism.

What about other matters such as pride?  Believing we are something we are not… more capable than we actually are… tougher than we actually are… more clever than we actually are.  Do these deceived beliefs not keep us stuck in problems?  Are the opposites also not equalling imprisoning… believing we are less than we actually are?

If we are not dealing with truth, we are not on the pathway to the way out.  We remain in harms way.  We remain in pain.  Others remain in pain.

Today, I am grateful that people and circumstances shook me to begin to wake me from so many of my self-deceptions.  It is a long process to which I do not believe there is a clear end.  But the journey is amazing.  The unfolding and opening up of life are amazing.

I am glad to know what I am and what I am not.  What I am capable of, and what I am not.  Then living in those truths.  Discovering the truths may be painful, but the result is worth it. 

To me, the processes of shedding self-deception and moving toward living in truths are what recovery is about.





  1. Thanks for sharing. Great post

  2. A lot of people drink because they believe drinking will solve any problem. I don’t really understand why. Why is that? Why do people get themselves involved in drugs and alcohol thinking every problem will be gone, instead they’re creating more problems.

  3. “To me, the processes of shedding self-deception and moving toward living in truths are what recovery is about.” — How true.

    Here’s some verses that came to mind (and in some of my own writing about denial):

    For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.—Romans 12-3

    Keep me from lying to myself; give me the privilege of knowing your law.—Psalm 119:29

    They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator–who is forever praised. Amen.—Romans 1:25

  4. Zac…. thanks for stopping by.

  5. Narconon Arrowhead…

    The feeling of momentary reprieve from our problems that drugs and alcohol bring are a major reason many of us start using them.

    Few ever rationalize clearly that their problems will be solved… only that we feel better about our problems when we drink.

    Any notion that the problems are being solved is self deception.

    We live in an increasingly complex and hurting world. This, I believe, is why so many of us start drugs and alcohol. They are a means of escape.

    Then the addictive characteristics of our nature and of the drugs/booze collide in a “perfect storm” for some of us and we are hooked.

    It is anything but a sound decision or effort to solve anything.



  6. Cyndi…. great scriptures. Yes, self deception has been around since biblical days.

    Here’s one that reveals how long man has been self-deceived…

    Jeremiah 17:9 (New King James Version)
    “ The heart is deceitful above all things,
    And desperately wicked;
    Who can know it?

    Imagine the fact that we are dealing with the same malady of self deception that they dealt with back thousands of years ago.

    And the same solutions are sought. Revealing of our deceptions through a conscious contact (relationship) with God.

    Hmmmm…. AA methods arent so new.



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